In My Singleness by Annie

Too often, when I happen to bump into with long-time-no-see “friends”, I am always victimized by questions like “Kanus-a ka mag minyo, Ann?” or “May uyab ka na, Ann?”  I just smile and humbly say, “Wala pa po.”

I just could not understand why these people tend to stereotype women in my age: that we should already be in a relationship or be married.

Rushing into a relationship my dear friends, just to tell you, is pointless.  I was once in a relationship where one cannot even visit you; cannot make an effort to know you and your family; and is never proud of you or doesn’t even know your worth. As a result, you end up devastated, rejected, and shattered.

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I have decided not to date after the break up.  I need to prepare myself to someone whom God set aside for me and to nurture myself to become the right person to the one who truly deserves my love.

Maayo na lang jud, my family and close friends don’t make me feel inadequate in my singleness. They support my “hulat-hulat” virtue and they pray for me as well, that someday, I would finally meet the right man.  They always remind me not to settle for less—to set a higher standard, which includes choosing the person who loves and fears the Lord.

In my singleness, I can say I am happy.  I am given the chance to be me—to know more about God and myself.  I want to rekindle further my relationship with Him that was unnourished over the past years.  I aspire to focus on things I want and wish to do always—cycling, teaching, pursuing my MBA, having my dream job, obtaining a driver’s license, and traveling around the Philippines and across countries.

I think I still have so much to learn.  For now, I will fervently pray and be patient for the one. Who knows? :)