If exclusion is intentional,
Shall I already isolate myself?
How far should I be reaching out to be reached out?
How hard should I work to fit in the circle?
If exclusion is intentional, then the answers are clear:
I should not reach out because I am not included from the beginning.
I should not work to fit to the circle because I am not welcome on the first place.
If exclusion is intention, I too, shall isolate, intentionally.